VIVAnews - perfectionist attitude or the attitude that demands perfection in all things, it can be said one key to success. But behind this success there is a 'price' to be paid.According to Linda Peterman, mental health counselor from Florida, United States, people who are perfectionists have a tendency to feel tired, stressed and often problematic in terms of personal relationships. It is experiencing a continuous and can be depressed when the target is not reached and the process to get it does not run perfectly.
Here are some general characteristics of a perfectionist who will cause problems, as quoted from the Shine:
1. All things considered black or white top and right or wrong.
2. Unrealistic target
3. Expectations (for self and others) not unreasonable or unrealistic
4. Be always worried and tend to be exaggerated
5. Focus on the negative things other people
6. Thinking absolute, always issued orders and can not be debated
7. Believe accomplishments and achievements can measure a person
8. Can not wait
9. Easily stressed
10. Always think "my way is best"
If you feel karaketeristik, there is a solution provided by Linda to at least reduce the perfectionist attitude that can hurt yourself and those around you.
Here are ten solutions:
1. Find positive things from a particular situation or a person in the vicinity, especially those you have given a bad rating.
2. Make a realistic target
3. Make a more reasonable expectation
4. Forgive yourself and others that have been made over kesalahanan
5. Focus on the positive things
6. Do not always think the worst
7. Try more flexible in dealing with problems. Make the possibility of a "gray area" not just black and white.
8. Make time for fun
9. Let the small error passed
10. Trying to be more patient
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